I graduated from high school in 1970. It was a time of turbulence when most women were burning bras, marching for equal rights, and wanted nothing to do with ‘traditional’ ideals such as marriage. Love was okay…as long as it was on the terms of loving whomever you wanted, whenever you wanted, wherever you wanted.
As movies and novels often reflect the time period in which they are created, it might have stood to reason that the novel ‘Love Story’ by Eric Segal adapted into a movie wouldn’t have a chance at the box office, yet the movie went on to become the top rated movie that year. A man and woman from two different worlds fall in love, get married, lack the financial support of his wealthy parents, and struggle along until the woman finds out she has cancer and eventually dies.
This was a real tear-jerker of a movie that featured the popular ‘Theme from Love Story’ and another song (‘Love Means You Never Have to Say You Are Sorry,) that paraphrased one of the final lines of the movie: “Love, love means never having to say you are sorry.”
As I celebrate forty-five years of marriage today, I beg to differ.
Love means saying you are sorry a LOT. It also means dealing with someone whose habits can make you roll your eyes or run for cover at times. Love robs you of breath one minute and has you rolling your eyes the next. Love is challenging, yet simple. Love is sacrificial and selfish. Love means continuing in a relationship that is unexplainable. How do you explain investing the time, energy, physical joy, and proverbial bond day-after-day, night-after-night, year-after-year, through all the ages of maturity that two people experience in their lifetime with the same person? How can you cement a relationship so it continues as common yet brings something new to the table each morning?
A person who could come up with that answer would make millions. One who could offer a pill guaranteeing that outcome would outrank the most famous of stars…but I am going to take a shot here…
When speaking of love, one must also address FAITH.
Faith in God. Faith in each other. Faith in admitting to faults. Faith in not giving up or giving in when times are rough. And faith in believing that this person exemplifies your ‘soulmate’ in that he/she is as close as possible to your ideal of perfect love which was illustrated by that of Jesus Christ here on earth.
When speaking of love, it is wise to address faith…and Hebrews sums this attitude well.
Hebrews 11: 1 -3-Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. For by it the elders obtained a good report. Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.
It is easy to substitute the word love here in place of faith for that is exactly what God did when He gave us His son Jesus Christ who is the very model of love.
Even today, after all the moral changes in our societies , there are some that still respect love and marriage and yearn to find and celebrate it.
There is an unexplainable joy in experiencing a happy marriage; a bond that re-enforces itself daily and allows you to overcome obstacles together that seem insurmountable and unobtainable on ones own.
Love is hard work and tears.
Love has no sell by date.
Sometimes, we fail and fail badly at it.
Love means saying you are sorry a lot.
Thankfully, I celebrate the work and the joy of love today for our love story continues…and I pray that it does so until we both breathe our last….