For years, it has been the unspoken standard that a woman should be a virgin when she marries. Modern society has eased that standard quite a bit what with women ‘hooking up’ and couples living together for months or years before taking the plunge into marriage–but the belief is out there. Brides typically wear white as a symbol of their purity.
So why didn’t the standard apply to men?
Oh, it’s just “boys being boy” is heard time and again. “A man is expected to have ‘experience’.”
With all the hue and cry over sexual abuse and infidelities that we are reading about, maybe it is time to draw a line over the attitude of how it’s okay for men to ‘sow their wild oats’.
We are fast becoming a nation where young men are doing little more than sit home and play violent video games, watch pornography, party hard, do drugs, or join far-left/far right political protests.
None of this behavior should be acceptable.
A young man who is a virgin would be mocked, hazed, or bullied.
If a woman is expected to be pure, why isn’t a man?
Do we believe humans are so unintelligent that men and women who have refrained from sex won’t figure the process out? Or are we so naive that even with all sex education give in schools today, we are frightened to admit that SEX WITHOUT LOVE IS SIMPLY A FUEL OF LUST AND DIFFERS FROM LOVE?
And, there you have it.
Anyone can have sex to scratch an ‘itch’ the same way that anyone can scratch their back. Find a willing partner and go to it. Avoid the realization that there is any real meaning to the act. Avoid any conscience of guilt, sharing, or commitment for that is ‘old-fashioned’. Let your iconic movie stars, recording artists, or even politicans provide you with your role model.
We live in a culture that EXPECTS ‘happily-ever-after’–as long as we don’t have to pay a price for it. Heck, now we have experts telling us monogamy is dangerous and swingers are better physiologically.
The concept of one man and woman who have joined together in innocence to form a physical, emotional, and spiritual bond is one pretty much ignored or made fun on today.
Yet, isn’t that bond what most still (if they were truthful) search for?
For all our modern twaddle about how ‘elevated’ we have become in our thoughts, actions, and society, we have made little progress in our attitudes. We believe ourselves gods–free to spout that we have all the answers and deserve whatever ‘world’ WE decide is the right one for us without consequences.
I found this Biblical example perfect for contemplation.
Proverbs 6:32-But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
You can substitue MAN for woman here.
No matter how modern society tries to get around it, we are speaking about our SOULS. The inner self that makes us who we are.
The best robots we may ever create may be intelligent and be fashioned perfectly in the future, but IF scientists ever find a way to instill them with emotions and they begin to debate things for themselves, we had better run…and run fast for I doubt that they we find US worthy of continued existence. Without a soul, wouldn’t a robot proclaim the same decision Solomon made when faced with two mothers claiming the same child? If you remember, his decision was to “cut the child in half.”
One without a soul may have followed through on that illustration.
One with a soul would see through the lesson with the eyes of love.
I worry over the choice of men as husbands available in the future. Boys today lack heroes who carry the banner of strength in weakness; masculinity with sacrifical equality; innocence with confidence; protectiveness without dominance.
There is nothing wrong with virginity of either sex. Waiting until you find a soul-mate…and getting to really KNOW that person before uniting in sex should be applauded and proclaimed as ideal.
It’s time for our society to examine themselves. Are those who proclaim themselves so ‘experienced’ and ‘free’ really happy? Or are they searching for the solution God has already given us in His word–His love, His forgiveness, and the ideals and laws that allow our souls to FLOURISH rather than be destroyed?